Blue Balls

Blue Balls Questions and Answers

I have a question about blue balls. My girlfriend doesn't believe me when I tell her that fooling around and not completing to some kind of release causes me a lot of pain for days. She was told at a young age that men use the term blue balls as a ploy for sexual intercourse. But I do not. It's true. She thinks I am lying about blue balls or just stupid. Is it in my head or is it real? Please help. - Mike

Blue Balls Answers

You're both right. Some men will experience discomfort in their testicles if they get aroused and there is no release. This phenomenon is often called "blue balls." It's also true that men traditionally have used the blue balls complaint in order to receive some form of sex from the woman they're with. With that, there are two things that you need to know.

First, whether or not you experience this discomfort should not have any impact on her decision on how far she will go with you sexually. Second, if you're experiencing the blue balls pain and your girlfriend isn't ready or willing to assist, you can always take care of this yourself—you just need help in the male masturbation section.

One thing about your note worries me: The discomfort of blue balls is normally supposed to subside fairly quickly (I can't find a definite timeline, but somewhere between a few minutes and an hour is my best guess). If you're really feeling pain for days and if masturbation doesn't relieve it, then you should talk to a doctor to find out what else may be going on other than blue ball discomfort..

—Abby