We are trained to believe that the point of having sex is to have an orgasm. The orgasm is often the first question that gets asked when someone relates a sexual experience to a friend. In reality, good sex is good because both people have a great time, not because both are totally physically spent by amazing orgasms. Having a mind-blowing orgasm can be great, but they do not define fabulous sex. If any one misses out on the orgasm it is usually the woman, which is bad news if the man makes a habit out of it, but not essential for a good session. Women do not enjoy fake orgasms. Of course they want real ones, but they also want you to know that sex can be good without them—sometimes.