Does the Clitoris Swell?

Submitted by Guest on Sat, 11/06/2010 - 23:02

I have been able to locate exactly, with my tongue, my wife's clitoris. However, I find that even so, I don't feel it swell up. I wish it would. Is my problem technique? I would like very much to have physical proof that my wife is aroused even though we have strong communication and my wife lets me know how she feels.

Clitoris Swells?

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Clitoris Swelling

Submitted by Abby on Sat, 11/06/2010 - 23:03.

Dear Clitoris Swells?,

When a woman is aroused, tremendous physiological changes occur in her entire body, not only in the clitoris, but in the labia, vagina, and breasts. Muscle tension, heart rate and blood pressure increase. The head of the clitoris not only swells, but also retracts, or "hides", under its hood. This may explain in part why you cannot feel your wife's clitoris swell. In addition, you may be expecting it to change size dramatically, the way a penis changes size, however the swelling is much smaller in scale, (but not in intensity!)

I wonder if you are paying attention to the feedback your wife gives you. What would physical proof give you that her words, sounds, and involvement do not? By searching for proof of her arousal, you may be losing out on the pleasure you could be having by being involved in the moment.

As for technique, each woman is different. Some women like direct pressure, others prefer indirect. Some like quick hard strokes; others prefer long, languishing strokes. Some like circles; others like side to side, or a combination. Sometimes women like the movement to change as they approach orgasm, but need it to be consistent in order to build to orgasm. Perhaps this is the information you can learn from your wife. Try experimenting!

-Abby