Sex Snag #7: You Can’t Find Your G-Spot
If you can, swell. If you can’t, don’t sweat it. Particularly because even sex experts don’t agree on exactly where this uber-sensitive area is located. Some folks say it’s behind your pubic bone, about two inches inside your vagina. Others believe it’s actually further back, in a triangular area on the back of the bladder wall -- called the trigone or T Zone -- where three nerves come together. There’s too much emphasis put on the G-spot as a magic button. This leaves men searching for this one spot to hit, and it makes women feel inferior if they can’t find it.
Sex Rx: Don’t Get Off Course
The G-spot is just one potentially sensitive area on your body among many. Don't get sidetracked from your other erogenous zones looking for something you might not find. Some women orgasm if their nipples are touched. You know where those are, but it doesn’t mean you’ll get a heightened response from touching them. The G-spot is a little more hidden, so if you can’t find it that may just mean that area isn’t that sensitive for you.
Sex Rx: Don’t Get Off Course
The G-spot is just one potentially sensitive area on your body among many. Don't get sidetracked from your other erogenous zones looking for something you might not find. “ome women orgasm if their nipples are touched. You know where those are, but it doesn’t mean you’ll get a heightened response from touching them. The G-spot is a little more hidden, so if you can’t find it that may just mean that area isn’t that sensitive for you.
Sex Rx: Try These Positions Tonight!
Woman on top. Straddling your guy lets you control the show -- how deep, how fast -- while also making it easy to touch your clitoris. Plus, it’s easier for your man to stroke your breasts, which for many women brings them pretty darn close to climax.
On all fours. There’s just something a little naughty about this stance which may heighten arousal. Plus, the angle lets your guy go deep and hit your G-spot while you’ve got hands free to handle your clitoris. Another variation: Lay flat on the bed with him behind you and you can grind your clitoris against the bed.
Sex Snag # 9: You Feel Rushed
Guys can go from zero to orgasm in nothing flat, which is why they memorize all those baseball stats -- concentrating on their favorite team’s starting line-up keeps them from finishing too soon. But women aren’t built that way. We take much longer to `lock in’ and focus on the sexual stimulus that will bring us to orgasm. And since it can often take 20 minutes before we’re even ready to think about orgasm, worrying that your guy’s getting bored or frustrated or will finish before you get close adds an extra layer of pressure that pretty much ensures it won’t happen at all.
Sex Rx: Get Yourself into the Game a Little Early
Indulging in some self-pleasure before you get together gets your juices flowing and gives you a head start, says Cooper. “Then your partner doesn’t have to do as much because you’re already turned on.”
Sex Snag # 10: You Leave It All Up to Him
Uh-uh. You know what they say: When you want something done right, do it yourself. Not that you need to be completely on your own in this endeavor. But laying your orgasm solely on your guy’s shoulders? Well, that’s a lot of pressure on him to perform. Most guys are kind of fumbling in the dark a bit, but women are often reluctant to exert themselves about their own needs and desires, and this is one place where you really have to, because this is your body, your pleasure.
Sex Rx: Give Direction
Staying mum while he’s going about it all wrong just ensures he’s going to keep doing it wrong. So helping him out is win-win. Sometimes that means piping up with some gently delivered directions -- you know how guys hate to stop and ask -- or just boldly go where he’s not and give yourself a hand … or move his. And if he’s done and you’re not? Let him watch you touch yourself. Men are usually excited -- and thankful -- when a woman takes matters into her own hands. And they can probably learn something!
