Is There Something Wrong That I Can't Orgasm During Intercourse?

If you can’t have orgasms with intercourse, you’re normal. Sometimes women get upset because their partners say, ‘My last lover could have orgasms, so there must be something wrong with you.’

Now, assuming you don’t dump him for being an insensitive cad, you’re well within your rights to point out that about 70% of women don’t orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation. You can also clue him in to the fact that it’s perfectly OK for one of you to lend a hand.

Touching your clitoris during sex really ups the chances that you’ll have an orgasm.

If you’ve never experienced an orgasm – and about 10% of women haven't – you might consider investing in some slippery lube (not oil, which can irritate sensitive vaginal tissues) and experiment alone. Don’t get discouraged if there are no immediate fireworks.

The first time, it might take an hour of stimulation to produce an orgasm; it might also take many tries to get comfortable with the feelings of strong arousal.