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Learn to Orgasm Question

I need to learn to orgasm. I have been with my boyfriend for quite along time and we have started to play with each other. He likes to perform masturbation on me, we have done this for quite along time but I never get an orgasm. I have never had one and don't know what they feel like. We sometimes try for over half an hour but I can't orgasm. He is very determined and doesn't give up until he has to because of arm ache. He makes me feel good but never enough to make me cum. Please help me!!!

Thanks,
Jenny

Priority: urgent

Orgasm Answers

The very first thing you need to do is learn how to give yourself an orgasm. How can you tell your boyfriend what to do and what not to do if you don't know yourself? Imagine if he told you he had an itch and didn't provide any other information. You wouldn't have any way of knowing what to do. Even if you were the "worlds greatest scratcher", and had successfully scratched hundreds of men, you still would not know for sure what to do.

Once you know what works you can then teach him! I wrote an article about this exact topic at http://www.abbys-sexual-health.com/articles/female_masturbation.php that should get you going in the right direction. However, these are suggestions, not rules. Although I list a number of ideas, it can begin as simply as closing your eyes, thinking of a fantasy, and then exploring with your hand what feels good and what does not.

One final note: Focus on the journey, not the destination. The harder you try to have an orgasm, the harder it can be. Just let yourself have fun and it will happen!

Hope that helps!
Abby