Spotting the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot)

Submitted by Abby on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 12:06

G-spot CAN YOU SPOT THE G-SPOT?
There’s no reason to play hide and seek with this erogenous zone!

Clinically, the "G-Spot" is described as an area of spongy tissue just above the "roof" of a woman's vagina. Not a lot of excitement there.

BUT…did you know that many women find this area more sensitive to stimulation than other parts of the vagina. Makes the search for the elusive G-Spot a bit more interesting…and rewarding…don’t you think?

Here’s what you need to know:

BE A BOY SCOUT!
In other words – be prepared! It’s as simple as clean hands and clipped nails. (If you like to keep your nails long for any reason, considered wrapping them in cotton and wearing latex gloves so that you don’t scratch your partner’s “naughty bits.”

SETTING THE STAGE
Some women find that G-Spot stimulation is more pleasurable after they are already sexually aroused. A little foreplay goes a long way and hey, it’s fun!

ON THE MAP
To find the G-Spot, put your finger in your or your partner's vagina and, with your finger pointing up toward the abdomen, flex it in a “come here” motion. You may not feel anything different, but your partner’s response will let you know when you’ve hit the right spot.

YOU’VE FOUND IT – NOW WHAT?
Move your fingers in even circles all around the vagina, with your fingers as far "in" as is comfortable for the receptive partner. Keep a consistent pressure against the vaginal walls while maintaining a steady rotational rhythm.

Then, stop rotating and rest your fingertips on the (often slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone. Exert pressure upwards, towards her belly. This is direct G-Spot stimulation. It usually feels best for a woman if your fingers are subtly moving. Small, slow circles are effective, or try pointing your fingers more sharply upwards and rock them back and forth.

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
For some women, G-Spot orgasms may start to multiply over a period of weeks or months. Part of it has to do with comfort, familiarity and your technique, but there is also evidence to suggest that the intensity of G-Spot orgasms may be directly related to pubococcygeal muscle tone.

SAFETY FIRST!
In the event that you’re not 100% familiar with your partner’s health status (we’re talking HIV and STD here), standard latex "examination" gloves are an important safety measure. They’re usually sold by the box at drugstores in “powdered” and “unpowdered.” Just pick the one that fits your hand and your fancy.

Oral barriers like Glyde’s “Lollyles” are useful and feel even better if you put a drop of water-based lube on your partner's side before applying them.

WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU…AND HER
Many men are interested in the G-Spot because they’ve heard that some women achieve multiple orgasms more easily from G-Spot stimulation and that some women actually ejaculate from such stimulation. And they’re right, it is a highly sensitive erogenous zone and some women do secrete a fluid from G-Spot stimulation.

But not all women ejaculate and not all women find G-Spot stimulation pleasurable. In fact, some women find G-Spot stimulation irritating. Every woman is different, so pay attention to what feels good for the unique person you are with.

Good communication – with words, sounds and body language – is what great sex is all about. Don’t just dive in there! Take the time to get to know the body – and the mind -- you’re making love to.

A LITTLE SOMETHING FOR YOU, TOO
Many of these G-Spot techniques will work in a similar fashion on you when performed anally. The stimulation of you prostate gland can provoke and/or intensify orgasms.

Your partner may stimulate the prostate gland with one or two fingers a few inches inside your anus, which leaves the other hand free to massage the penis itself.

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Spotting the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot)